Wow, sorry for all your misfortune.
Where to begin. At 160k you probably need so many parts it may be hard to list.
Ball joints, tie rods, wheel bearings, struts would be the first to look at. New belts and power steering fluid. You probably need a timing belt and water pump too if not already done. Then you have all the bushings, which I am sure are very tired and strut tops too.
At about the 90k mark is a good time to start replacing all this stuff, but unfortunately you are beyond that and probably need to replace lots of stuff all at once.
Start looking up on how to inspect all these things to see what needs priority and what you can afford.