dont want to muck up this thread too much but maybe this will help others looking for guidance.
i finally got it off... whether it was my raw persistance or the WD40 working overnight... i spent about 10 hours on this yesterday and about an hour so far today and it finally came off!!!
just thought i'd post some photos of the carnage so nobody things i'm completely incompetent...
as far as greasing the new one... where do i grease and wehre do i not grease? i naturally greased the cylindrical ball joint housing before sliding it into the knuckle, if for nothing else then for rust prevention in the future. right or wrong?