some websites have a dedicated IM.....umm, thing. i don't know much about web design or computer programming.
you are able to know whether a member is online or not. as an alternative to the PM, what about starting an IM conversation?
i understand everyone has some sort of IM on their computers already, but it's too personal to ask for a stranger's screen name, especially in an age of identity theft.
am i completely out of my league here?